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Wordless Wednesday: Swinging Karis

By Kay on Wed, Nov 5, 2008

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Donation Time

By Kay on Fri, Oct 31, 2008


I finally got an afternoon free last week for Kate and I to sort through the toys we had been slowly collecting to take to a local charity for donation. We went through all the boxes and bags that have been sitting in closets in our house and relived old memories of when she was a baby and played with this toy or that. I knew Kate was having a hard time with parting with things that had once been hers (heck, most adults have a hard time with that, too!), but I really wanted her to be a part of the giving process and not just see these things disappear from the house.

We finally got finished, packed it all up and drove down the street to Northwest Assistance Ministries. When we got to there, we took a few minutes to look around their resale shop so Kate would have a better understanding of where her beloved things were going. When wemade it around to the back, the volunteer who helped us unload the car was very sweet to Kate and assured her that all her toys would be put to good use.

As soon as we got back into the car, Kate burst into tears. She just knew she was really going to miss all of her things. (Mind you, most of them had been put away in a closet for months with no mention from her.  But, you know how kiddos can be.) So, we talked about how awesome it was going to be for all the boys and girls that didn’t have many toys to get to play with hers because she was so generous to share.  We talked about how maybe the little girl we saw in the resale shop would get some of Kate’s old dress up clothes to wear for Halloween.  We talked about ‘give and you shall receive’.  We talked about the sun behind every cloud as she peered out the car window at the overcast sky was and pointed out the patches of sunshine peeking through.

Then, we decided that the two of us needed a date.

at McDonald’s.

with an ice cream cone.

And then, everything was alright with the world again.

“But I’ll still miss those toys, Mommy.” 🙂

Happy Birthday to My Man

By Kay on Tue, Oct 28, 2008

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Today is my dear husband’s 38th birthday, so I wanted to celebrate him with 38 reasons why I love my man…

  1. I love the way your eyes twinkle when you are thinking of something mischevious.
  2. I love the way you play with the kids on the floor, tickling and laughing and affectionate.
  3. I love that you are a dedicated, self-motivated, go-getter of a man.
  4. I love that you make me do silly things just so I won’t take life so seriously.
  5. I love that you support me in everything I set my mind to and push me towards the things that I should do.
  6. I love that you are my best friend and that we can have conversations about ANYTHING.
  7. I love that you are a passionate person and care deeply.
  8. I love that you don’t care how well I cook; you’re just grateful that I cook at all.
  9. I love that you let me slide my popsicle toes up under your legs so I can warm them up.
  10. I love it when you walk up behind me when I doing dishes or cooking dinner, put your arms around my waist and kiss me on the neck.  It makes me wanna cook and clean more. 
  11. I love the way that you take care of the people you love most and keep their needs ahead of your own.
  12. I love that you understand my weird idiosyncrasies and even find most of them endearing.
  13. I love that you allow for my love of Shipley’s donuts, even though you know Krispie Kremes are better.
  14. I love the way that you encourage each of our children in their own individual strengths and personalities.
  15. I love the deep, spiritual conversations that drive you.
  16. I love that when it comes right down to it, you really do enjoy spending time at home with me and the kids.
  17. I love that you push me to try new things even when I don’t want to.
  18. I love that most of the ‘vices’ I’ve picked up over the years were intentionally started by you – this is where I raise my glass of wine to you and say, “Cheers!” (or “clink!” as our kids would say)
  19. I love that you are returning to the man you were created to be and you allow others to do the same.
  20. I love that we can watch geeky, scientific, educational shows on TV together and we both like them.
  21. I love that you take care of me and treat me like a queen, even when I acting more like the chamber maid.
  22. I love the way you dance with our girls and show them what true love should look like.
  23. I love the way you encourage our boy to become a “Hesketh man”.
  24. I love the smell of your pipe in the evening; it reminds me to slow down and enjoy our life.
  25. I love that you’ll watch romantic chic flicks with me, even when you don’t feel like it.
  26. I love the way you love inclement weather and turn into a little boy again during storms.
  27. I love the way you love my sister and parents as if they were your own.
  28. I love that you understand the plight of this stay-at-home mom; you encourage me to get out of the house and you don’t complain when its not at its cleanest.
  29. I love that you are ‘interruptable’ even when you’re hard at work.
  30. I love that you built me 2 websites to fill with words and you didn’t even charge me.
  31. I love that you encourage me in my strengths and help me discover ways to manage my weaknesses.
  32. I love the way you let music move you.
  33. I love the home we’ve built together; it’s a home filled with peace and love and grace and warmth.
  34. I love the way you love to laugh.
  35. I love the way your eyes soften a little around the edges when you look at me in a loving glance.
  36. I love melting into you at the end of a long day.
  37. I love the way you love me.
  38. Shawn, I love you for who you are.

Kate, The Princess

By Kay on Sun, Sep 28, 2008


Do you see the tiara?

A few weeks ago I went to pick up Ethan from Mother’s Day Out.  One of his teachers was sharing with me that he enjoyed the story of Peter Pan that day and was one of the few children in the class that recognized Tinker Bell.  I laughed as I told her that didn’t surprise me since his older sister is a ‘princess’, so at our house we know all about princesses and fairies and such.

His other teacher overheard our conversation and started to laugh with us.  She knew Kate from school last year and she added her take to the story.  She said,


Oh, yes.  Kate is most definitely a princess.  She’s always wearing her tiara.  You may not always see it, but it’s always there.

After laughing hysterically, I came home and told Shawn this story.  He also laughed his butt off.  We decided then and there that this was most definitely the best description of our daughter, ever.  She is always carrying herself like royalty, constantly reminding her siblings of how things ought to be done (she told Ethan that he wouldn’t be invited to her tea parties again because he was not using his manners), but also constantly generous to those around her.

So now, whenever Kate does something particularly ‘princess-y’, Shawn and I just look at eachother, laugh, and say, “You may not see the tiara, but it’s always there!”

My Hurricane Ike Addendum

By Kay on Sat, Sep 27, 2008


Karis’ 2nd birthday was the Wednesday after Hurricane Ike hit.  (I know.  Happy Birthday to her, right?)  We had already decided long before Ike that we were going to have a low-key celebration with just our family and maybe an additional small playdate at a local park with a few friends.  So, Ike just confirmed those plans for us.

One of the traditions I like for my kids’ birthdays is to make a cake or cupcakes or cookies for them for their big day.  (Not because I’m good at it – I did NOT get the baking genes passed down from my grandma and mom – but just because it’s something special that I don’t normally do throughout the year.) With the entire city out of dairy products, though, that was going to be impossible.  Every cake mix requires eggs or milk or both.  Since I was already having a little bit of a difficult time accepting my baby becoming a toddler (I wouldn’t allow Shawn to even use the word toddler around me during that last week.), this just added to the emotion for me.

Somehow, my sweet mother-in-law found about my little breakdown and went to a store 20 minutes away that had dairy.  She bought me a cake mix, eggs, milk, and even the icing for on top.  That has to be one of the most thought-full things someone has done for me in a long time.  I made the cake with great thankfulness and didn’t even get upset when it broke a little coming out of the pan.  I iced it and then decorated it with mini-marshmallows from my pantry that I then colored with food coloring.

It was not the most beautiful cake I’ve ever made.  But, it was definitely filled with the most love.  Karis will probably not even remember anything about this birthday, but I will remember that someone special paid attention to the smallest of details to make it memorable for me.

Thank you, Brenda.  🙂

Holy cow!! Great use of visuals to help explain the proposed budget cuts and their actual impact on the overall budget.

You’ll never fold tshirts the same way again!

If you ever wanted to hear someone put a mommy’s day into a song, try this one! (I guarantee you’ll laugh your butt off.)

A little on the political side, but interesting nonetheless…

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